LOVE,RELATIONSHIP& SEXUALITY COACH
My Journey of Transformation
Hi, I’m Emma Spiegler. I’m a Love, Relationship and Sexuality Coach specialising in working with adults whose childhoods were disrupted by challenging experiences.
Prior to taking a deep dive into the world of integrated sexuality, self-love and relationships I founded and managed an international organisation for people impacted by a loved one’s substance misuse for over 10 years.
A childhood interrupted leaves a long lasting legacy that we carry into our adult life. I know this because this has been my adult life. It affects the way we love or don’t love ourselves, the types of dynamics we create or re-create in relationships and how we experience our sexuality and pleasure (or lack of pleasure) in life. My childhood was filled with chaos, confusion, mistrust, and instability. I grew up living around constant arguments, alcohol and drug addiction and took on emotional burdens beyond my years. I struggled in romantic relationships, making and maintaining friendships, and had extreme social anxiety.
I unwittingly took on deep seated false beliefs such as:
Enjoying myself = Guilt
Love = Pain and Heart Ache
Life = Suffering
And here was another BIG false belief I took on from childhood: my role is to take care of others. Life became all work and minimal pleasure and play. I forgot to take care of myself. After all, self-care hadn’t really been role modelled to me as a child. I was a classic ‘Over Achiever’ and discovered a younger part of me was deeply afraid that if I wasn’t absolutely perfect, I wouldn’t be good enough just as I am, and that people would discover just how awful I am inside (a.k.a deep seated shame).
On this path of transformation you will be supported to hold with love and care the parts of you that have existed since childhood that were created to survive. You will also envision new ways you want to be
in relationship to yourself
Then my life changed in a way that forced me to STOP and go inwards.
What followed was extreme burnout. My body said NO and demanded that I surrender to a state of deep rest for a long period of time. I got the gift of a lot of time with myself. I learned the art of radical self-care, the innate wisdom my body holds within, the power of saying no, and how to love myself as much as I wanted to be loved.
I decided to take this experience as one of my greatest teachers. I decided I was going to upgrade all those heavy false beliefs I had been carrying around like a dead weight. I decided to intentionally create a life that embraced my old patterns and invited in new ones that included more self-love, more pleasure inside and outside of the bedroom and more trusting of life and people.
This is where YOU come in.
I am here to guide you towards a greater sense of wholeness, supporting you to find safety within, feel trust in intimate relationships and allow more pleasure and play into your life.
I am here to expertly guide you to experience the transformational power of coming out of your mind and into your body.
Together we will go on a deep journey of exploration; you’ll get to discover the different parts of yourself that can be in internal conflict with each other, blocking you from getting what you really want.
You’ll build up your sense of inner strength and you’ll have the opportunity to envision new ways of being and relating to yourself and the world.
On this path of transformation you will be supported to hold with love and care the parts of you that have existed since childhood that were created to survive. You will also envision new ways you want to be in relationship to yourself and others.