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To get erections, maintain them and be more in choice, of when you ejaculate, you need to be in the relaxed parasympathetic part of your...

For some men, their desire for sex seems elusive. They hardly ever feel like it and have moments of reflection, where they wonder, "Where...

When men experience stress related to sex, over and over again, it can put their mind and body in a state of survival. In a state of...

Start building it now! Reducing performance anxiety isn’t just a mindset thing. It’s about understanding that your mind and body are...

I looked up Erectile Dysfunction on google and saw the word Impotence. Then I looked up the definition of Impotence: inability in a man...

You can work through Performance Anxiety & Erectile Disappointment issues AND still use Porn Let me explain HOW... Many of the men I work...

Taskmaster - ‘a person who imposes a harsh or onerous workload on someone’ (Oxford English Dictionary) When it comes to my work with...

We have been handed a limited script from the media of how pleasure should look for a Man. What we see on the screens impacts us. It’s...

A lot of men that I work with, initially contact me, because they have lost their desire for sex. Now, there are many reasons men just...

The other day, I imagined designing a t-shirt with the slogan: ‘I am not explaining myself’ When I imagine walking down the street and...

One of the biggest issues I see coming up, for people I work with, is probably not what you would assume! The mainstream narrative only...

Here’s the challenging thing with desire; we are conditioned to think that if we are not feeling spontaneous desire, where we suddenly...

You may have got into a pattern in your relationship, where there is so much on the 'to do list', that intimacy has become less frequent...

It’s not what we see on the screens! What we do see is this - a man is hard/erect and immediately ready for penetration. We need to keep...

I speak to (and work with) lots of people, who have slow-build desire. This is the type of desire that we do not see on the screens; -...

Here are some of the ways that men find their arousal short-circuits, before or during intimacy: Having anxious thoughts such as; - ‘What...

Our brains are so powerful and will believe the stories we tell it. And it’s more nuanced than our mindset, because it’s also about our...

About 10 years ago, I went to see a therapist who asked me really deep, probing and personal questions, in the initial session. This was...

Men feel a slow kind of desire too - it’s not just women! Women all over the world have been discovering that they have what is called...

Choosing pleasure over performance is easier said than done for men! Because it isn't so much about the mindset. It’s about the BODYSET....