Did you know, it takes hardly any stress, for the autonomic system to produce erectile dysfunction?
To get erections, maintain them and be more in choice, of when you ejaculate, you need to be in the relaxed parasympathetic part of your...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 1 min
For some men, their desire for sex seems elusive.
For some men, their desire for sex seems elusive. They hardly ever feel like it and have moments of reflection, where they wonder, "Where...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 2 min
Completing the Stress Cycle & Anxiety Around Sex
When men experience stress related to sex, over and over again, it can put their mind and body in a state of survival. In a state of...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 1 min
Reducing performance anxiety, by building your stress management tool box.
Start building it now! Reducing performance anxiety isn’t just a mindset thing. It’s about understanding that your mind and body are...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 2 min
Erectile Dysfunction, as a term, is setting men up, for feeling like a failure.
I looked up Erectile Dysfunction on google and saw the word Impotence. Then I looked up the definition of Impotence: inability in a man...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 3 min
You can work through Performance Anxiety & Erectile Disappointment issues AND still use Porn
You can work through Performance Anxiety & Erectile Disappointment issues AND still use Porn Let me explain HOW... Many of the men I work...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 3 min
Why your Internal Taskmaster is holding you back in your sex life
Taskmaster - ‘a person who imposes a harsh or onerous workload on someone’ (Oxford English Dictionary) When it comes to my work with...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 2 min
Men, have you lost your desire for sex? This one's for you.
We have been handed a limited script from the media of how pleasure should look for a Man. What we see on the screens impacts us. It’s...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 2 min
The Unexpected Thing, That's Helpful For Men To Know, When They Have Lost Their Desire For Sex
A lot of men that I work with, initially contact me, because they have lost their desire for sex. Now, there are many reasons men just...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 1 min
I am not explaining myself
The other day, I imagined designing a t-shirt with the slogan: ‘I am not explaining myself’ When I imagine walking down the street and...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 2 min
Mis-Match in Levels of Desire
One of the biggest issues I see coming up, for people I work with, is probably not what you would assume! The mainstream narrative only...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 4 min
What happens when you stop feeling desire?
Here’s the challenging thing with desire; we are conditioned to think that if we are not feeling spontaneous desire, where we suddenly...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 2 min
Scheduling is Sexy
You may have got into a pattern in your relationship, where there is so much on the 'to do list', that intimacy has become less frequent...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 1 min
Soft Starts
It’s not what we see on the screens! What we do see is this - a man is hard/erect and immediately ready for penetration. We need to keep...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 1 min
Slow-Build Desire
I speak to (and work with) lots of people, who have slow-build desire. This is the type of desire that we do not see on the screens; -...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 2 min
Men & loss of desire - how you can break the cycle, of arousal being short-circuited
Here are some of the ways that men find their arousal short-circuits, before or during intimacy: Having anxious thoughts such as; - ‘What...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 1 min
The power of our minds and bodies, in rehearsing pleasure
Our brains are so powerful and will believe the stories we tell it. And it’s more nuanced than our mindset, because it’s also about our...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 3 min
Trauma, the Body, and Going Slow
About 10 years ago, I went to see a therapist who asked me really deep, probing and personal questions, in the initial session. This was...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 2 min
Men feel a slow kind of desire too!
Men feel a slow kind of desire too - it’s not just women! Women all over the world have been discovering that they have what is called...
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Emma Spiegler
- Jan 24
- 2 min
Choosing Pleasure Over Performance
Choosing pleasure over performance is easier said than done for men! Because it isn't so much about the mindset. It’s about the BODYSET....
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