Stress Management is key when it comes to managing psychological erectile dysfunction. Firstly it's important to understand in basic terms that there is two parts to your nervous system. The 'Rest' part and the 'Stress' part, otherwise known as the Parasympathetic and Sympathetic parts.
To be able to orgasm and/or ejaculate, you have to completely shift into the sympathetic part of your autonomic nervous system.
If you are not getting erections, sustaining erections or ejaculating too quickly, then it could be because stress is impacting you (this applies to psychological ED). It's not that you are failing as a man - it's your body letting you know that you are under stress.
It's worth repeating this key message. If you feel you are failing as a man, because you are not able to get erections, it can and does start a shame and anxiety loop. This adds more stress, on top of the stress you are already feeling. To interrupt this loop, it needs a bottom-up (stress release from the body) and top-down (telling yourself a new narrative) approach. The bottom up approach is body based as it helps you with real, practical tools to release stress, the top-down approach is working with your mind and your thoughts.
You can start shifting the negative thoughts you are having, to ones that feel supportive AND you can begin to find ways to release stress, PLUS bring in a sense of calm and ease.
You are not a failure of a man, if you have a history of or are currently not able to get erections, sustain them, or last longer in bed, then know that you can address this successfully with sex coaching. If you would like to book in an initial call to see how coaching can help you overcome Erectile Dysfunction click here.
Once you know what's happening within your nervous system and body, it takes some shame out of the equation. Its shame which can keep us stuck, unmotivated and unable to take action on solving the issue. With reduced shame, you have more mobilising energy, to get and create some changes in your life and overcome Erectile Dysfunction.
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